
Our post-Christian culture then is an anti-culture." We are compelled by the logic of modernity and the myth of individual freedom to continue tearing away the last vestiges of the old order convinced that true happiness and harmony will be ours once all limits have been nullified. Gay marriage signifies the final triumph of the Sexual Revolution and the dethroning of Christianity because it denies the core concept of Christian anthropology. In classical Christian teaching the divinely sanctioned union of male and female is an icon of the relationship of Christ to His church and ultimately of God to His creation. This is why gay marriage negates Christian cosmology from which we derive our modern concept of human rights and other fundamental goods of modernity. Whether we can keep them in the post-Christian epoch remains to be seen.The prevailing argument of traditionalists such as Drehrer was anticipated by poet Matthew Arnold in Dover Beach in 1867:
The Sea of Faith Was once too at the full and round earths shore Lay like the folds of a bright girdle furled. But now I only hear Its melancholy long withdrawing roar Retreating to the breath Of the night-wind down the vast edges drear And naked shingles of the world. … And we are here as on a darkling plain Swept with confused alarms of struggle and flight Where ignorant armies clash by night.Such an elegiac tone is moving. Yet it presents as a counsel of despair more than inspiration. Lost causes are the only ones worth fighting for" is a thought frequently (although not correctly) attributed to Clarence Darrow. And the case for traditional values is not quite a lost one. It can be won if the traditionalist proponents claim the high ground … of happiness. Happiness derives from a close-knit social fabric. We have seen over the past century the dissolution of the tight-knit village structure. My great-grandparents grew up in close-knit villages (in Poland Germany and Croatia) in which all were closely connected from birth with the entire village. This was followed by the dissolution of the tight-knit clan structure. My Old World born grandparents in New York City lived within a clan in which they socialized almost exclusively among matriarchs and patriarchs parents children aunts uncles cousins and siblings. This in turn was followed by the dissolution of the tight-knit extended family structure. My parents closely socialized with their family members and spent every Thanksgiving with my mothers sisters their husbands and their children. Both of my grandmothers died in the home of one of their children. That was followed by the dissolution of the tight-knit nuclear family structure. I grew up in a nuclear family: father mother brother. My own children of divorce grew up in what used to be called a broken home" beloved yet shuttling between their fathers and mothers homes. Now as Facebook so vividly demonstrates we confront the next step. The deconstruction of gender implies nothing less than a splitting of the personal atom: social nuclear fission where the cohesive gender identity of the individual is broken down. It is easy to romanticize the social bonds of village clan extended and nuclear family. Of course anyone who dutifully sits through an annual extended-family Thanksgiving dinner may be forgiven for harboring doubts. And the small horrors of nuclear family life were nicely displayed on The Wonder Years (the perfect antidote to the sentimental Leave It To Beaver). Yet social nuclear fission at critical mass (which we have not yet reached and may never) leads to a chain reaction which could lead to the unleashing of catastrophic energies. Could widespread gender deconstruction lead to a social Hiroshima? The proposed deconstruction of gender is not to be undertaken cavalierly as currently it is. The gesture of presenting 56 gender options by Facebook by no means stands alone. A recent Newsweek (virtual) cover story Whats Next? (For the Gay Rights Movement)" of September 27 2013 by E.J. Graff a Brandeis Womens Studies Research Center resident scholar portentously notes
theres a much larger cultural question that deeply deserves our countrys attention. It has to do with gender: the way our culture our politics and our legal system treats femininity masculinity and everything in between.Graff concludes
Social conservative crusader Phyllis Schlafly it turns out was right when in the 1970s she warned that if the Equal Rights Amendment were ratified wed have homosexual marriage women in combat and unisex bathrooms. The ERA was never ratified but the country took many of its lessons to heart. Heres what Schlafly got wrong: those werent things to warn against but to embrace.We wish to embrace that which makes us happier. One wishes even perhaps to embrace the simply inevitable. Yet there is another way of looking at this process: a secular unraveling of the classical social fabric. That this unraveling is on the whole happiness inducing or inevitable (rather than to date inexorable) is a proposition that bears a burden of proof not yet met. That the long slow unraveling of the social fabric has been so little addressed politically helps explain why so many of our political arguments have become apparently intractable. In this columnists view our arguments over important values issues the right to life and gay marriage as most prominent are more about effects than causes. Arguments about effects rather than causes inherently are futile. Time to consider the bigger picture. This columnist is persuaded that the proponents both of the traditionalist and cosmopolitan values are nobly intended. He also is persuaded that the formula for achieving happiness can be found in reweaving rather than abetting the unraveling of the social fabric. What if a tight traditional social fabric notwithstanding its real Wonder Years" flaws actually proves to be the optimal prescription for personal and social happiness? Malcolm Gladwells bestselling Outliers opens with a chapter describing the small Old World style Pennsylvania village of Roseto. Page 7:
For men over sixty-five the death rate from heart disease in Roseto was roughly half that of the United States as a whole. The death rate of all causes in Roseto in fact was 30 to 35 percent lower than expected. … There was no suicide no alcoholism no drug addition and very little crime. They didnt have anyone on welfare. Then we looked at peptic ulcers. They didnt have any of those either. These people were dying of old age. Thats it.This was discovered upon close investigation to be due not to diet healthy lifestyle or genetics. It was solely due to a close-knit village social structure. This is not merely anecdotal. As reported in Berkeleys GreaterGood
The upshot of 50 years of happiness research is that the quantity and quality of a persons social connectionsfriendships relationships with family members closeness to neighbors etc.is so closely related to well-being and personal happiness the two can practically be equated.So much research supporting this proposition has been conducted as to make this observation irrefutable. Its implications are too little politically discussed. Social traditionalists can then make their case politically by taking seriously Americas mission statement as set forth in the Declaration of Independence of Life Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness and making the argument that the pursuit of happiness best can be achieved personally and socially by a gentle yet purposeful suite of policies dedicated to the reweaving of the social fabric. Sorry Facebook. Sorry Newsweek. Happiness is not to be found by a further atomization of society and not however well meant by the fission implied by the deconstruction of gender. Proposing to secure our happiness by policies well calculated to reweave the social fabric is the platform that would give social conservatives possession of the commanding political heights. Where then shall our political future lie? Somewhere over the rainbow? Or ... Theres no place like home.