The best advice I got when I joined Facebook in 2008 was to ignore being unfriended. You cant do anything about it and thinking about it will only stress you out. Ive followed that advice ever since. Otherwise Facebook can feel like going through middle school all over again. No one wants that.
Someone unfriends me almost every day. Im conservative and some people dont like that. Im a Christian and I talk about my faith which offends some people. I try to be polite about my views. I like people even those who are only Friends" on Facebook. I enjoy good debates with my lefty friends. But whatever a conservative Christian does people are going to get angry and unfriend her.
Americans for Prosperity saw the value of social media early on and advised us activists to add lots of other conservatives. I added as many conservative friends on Facebook as possible when I joined Facebook maxing out at 5000. I had to start a second account.
Often Unfriended
With that many friends I get unfriended fairly often. Since my account is always maxed out at 5000 friends I cant help but notice when it dips down to 4999. Many of those who disappear off my friends list merely deactivated (temporarily or permanently) their Facebook accounts.
Two longtime friends and a close relative unfriended me.
Even though I dont pay attention to who unfriends me I occasionally find out when I go to someones Facebook page and see Im no longer their friend. Thats how I discovered two longtime friends and a close relative had unfriended me. No explanation no contentious debate on Facebook. I never saw it coming.
Two of them probably unfriended me over politics the third because of a feud with my ex-husband. They remained friends with people they had met through me including my estranged ex-husbands children. I cant help but wonder how are they going to feel the next time we run into each other?
Predictable Unfriending
I have a few left-leaning friends online. One who used to get in arguments all over my Facebook page finally ditched me and blocked me too. His name was Bernard so I called him Bernie bro. I think debating hundreds of my conservative Facebook friends finally gave him high blood pressure so he had to stop. The same thing happened with a lefty guy from the UK. He falsely accused me of something then unfriended me. I do miss his perspective but the debates he got into on my Facebook page could get pretty rude. One day I noticed I had been unfriended by about 20 people overnight. Turns out it was the annual Unfriend Day." The comedian Jimmy Kimmel invented it to eliminate people from your friends list who youd been considering unfriending. Its coming up this year on November 17.
One day I noticed I had been unfriended by about 20 people overnight.
One Facebook friend threatened to unfriend me because Facebook wouldnt allow her comments to go through due to the links in them. She thought I was deleting her comments. Fortunately other Facebook friends explained that it was Facebook not me.
Sometimes people think Ive unfriended them when I havent and they get really upset. This is because theyre friends with me on only one of my accounts. They see my other account recommended to them as someone to add as a friend and figure Ive dumped them.