An Open Letter to Post-Abortive Women

width=125Arent you glad your mother chose not to kill you? My first child died at the hands of an abortionist.

I write these words chiefly to women and girls who have had an abortion. Still it is my humble hope and honest prayer that anyone weighing this life-versus-death choice might also read them with an open mind and a hearing heart.

I share these truths in love. Some of you already know them. Others deny them. 

Yet truths they remain.

It is through obedience to Christ and in the authority of His Spirit that I write you this letter. It may be difficult to read but I pray you will read it.

First let us dispense with the oft-asserted notion that lest one is a woman more particularly lest one has faced an unwanted pregnancy one has nothing to say about abortion.

Abortion profoundly impacts us all. When you became pregnant the child growing within you was without exception one of two sexes male or female. Abortion affects men women boys and girls of every race color and creed.

Before we were born we all to varying degrees lived under some threat that choice" might kill us.

Arent you glad your mother chose not to kill you?

I am.

Know this about your choice: Yes you are still a mother. Yes you have killed your child. And yes there is forgiveness love redemption and healing available through Christ Jesus alone.

These are hard truths.

Your inner voice was right. You have indeed committed a sin most grave. Those pro-choice" flowers you were sold though alluring were as you suspected too good to be true.

Instead you purchased a bouquet of lies awash in the foul stench of death. You were told that for a few hundred dollars you could buy freedom only to be bound by a horrible thing that in this life cannot be undone.

But with eternal life it can be undone.

Your blood-covered hands can be washed clean by the blood-covered hands of Christ the Savior.

You need only ask receive and believe.

Abortion kills Gods children and hurts women and men alike. Your child has an earthly father too regardless of whether he took responsibility.

Abortion makes men fathers of dead sons and daughters.

Im the father of five beautiful children three of whom are with me and two of whom are in heaven. My wife and I lost our first child together in miscarriage; but long before that my first child died at the hands of an abortionist.

As a teenager I was not living as God intends. On a sunny fall day when I was 15 I heard a knock at our Gunnison Colo. home. With a full house it was I by chance (or not) who answered the door.

There stood a girl well call her Lisa with tears streaming down her face. I hadnt seen her for months. She hadnt been in school. As a volley of muffled cheers came from the living room in celebration of a John Elway touchdown I opened my mouth to speak.

Lisa interrupted me.

My mom thought it was right for me to tell you" she said that I had an abortion and the kid was yours."

Her mom sat in the car behind her glaring at me. Ill never forget the expression on her face. It was a jarring blend of contempt anger and pain.

Lisa turned and walked away. I said nothing. I wish I could say I felt shame but mostly I was just relieved that my parents didnt know.

I never saw Lisa again. She moved away shortly thereafter. It was many years later that God showed me the magnitude of that day. I had sinned against Lisa. I had mistreated one of His precious daughters. From it a child was conceived and due at least in part to my negligence and callous treatment of Lisa that child died.

A sin that led to a precious life was compounded by sins that led to a tragic death.

I mourn the loss of my first child. I cant know for sure but Ive always envisioned a girl. Today shed be about 27. Perhaps Id be a grandfather by now.

Ive never been able to find Lisa but I wish I could. Id ask her to forgive me for the horrible way I treated her. If she didnt already know Id tell her of Christs love for both of us and our child in heaven. Id tell her that forgiveness redemption and salvation are available to all who ask and believe upon Jesus.

Please know that I dont write this letter to hurt you.

Know that I dont judge you. How could I?

I hurt with you.

The enemy of the world is a liar. He is wicked beyond comprehension. You were lied to. Satan loves death. In the context of abortion he deceptively calls it choice."

But its only death.

There is no freedom in death except for those whose names are written in the Book of Life.

God is good beyond comprehension. He wants to write your name in the book of life.

Jesus promised: Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." (Matthew 11:28-30)

Of both you and your lost child God says this: Before I formed you in the womb I knew you before you were born I set you apart. …" (Jeremiah 1:5)

Come to Jesus and He will comfort you. Come to Jesus and He will forgive you. Come to Jesus and He will use for good that which was intended for evil.

Even your abortion.

Come to know Christ and one day in that place where sin is dead and life eternal the baby you never knew that child who knows you loves you and has already forgiven you will rush to your arms and say to you: Mommy Ive been waiting for you. Welcome home."



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